tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-40254091770988332402024-03-05T21:40:38.443-05:00ALL FIRED UP!Down 'n Dirty Wisdom from the Primal Heart of Self Defense with Lessons that could Save Your Pretty Ass!savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-91087706738821594632012-05-07T10:13:00.000-04:002012-05-08T12:16:37.788-04:00Does Size Matter?.<b><span style="color: purple;">...OF COURSE SIZE MATTERS! (Well... Read On...) </span></b><br />
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<strong><span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">From my FAQ Page: What about the size issue? Lay it on us, Dr. Ruthless.
Does size matter?</span></strong><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Yes...and No. First, the yes: Face it ladies, of course size matters! No
bull. The average male will likely have more strength, mass and lung capacity
than most females. Heck, a big dude can kill you by accident. Being overpowered
<em>is </em>always a potential reality.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">And this is precisely what dictates our need for smart strategies and
techniques, and for unorthodox and EXPLOSIVE tactics that capitalize on our strengths: speed,
agility, surprise, cunning, a lower center of gravity (excellent for balance,
throws, and maintaining a solid base), good intuition, and powerful emotional
reserves that can transform petite women into formidable fighters. We don't have
the privilege of being sloppy or dicking around. We need to get in, get to it,
free ourselves and get out. It's a biological imperative that females need to be
<strong>SKILLED <i>AND</i> NASTY</strong> in self defense.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><strong>So ultimately, No. It's not about size. Self defense is not a contest
of strength—it's a matter of survival.</strong><strong> </strong>Raw will and
determination are just as important as skill. Case in point: when a psycho / would be rapist attacked my slender friend in her home one night (He was disguised as her kitchen trash bag! He then leapt up and attacked, knocking her to the floor), her spindly legs aided by
adrenaline morphed into battering rams. Her savage kicks and screams, fueled
by terror, worked--her attacker fled out her window. On the other side of the
"it's not the size" spectrum, in 2006, a heavyset (technically obese) 51 year-old woman in Portland,
Oregon fought off and killed her weapon-wielding attacker /home invader with her
bare hands, leaving him heaped on her floor—choked to death. These accounts, not
Hollywood stunts, are but two examples of real self-defense.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">That said, you want to sharpen every edge. This is why my teaching advocates
EXPLOSIVE no-nonsense opening moves and the element of surprise, and why you
must come to know your killer instinct intimately - the way a woman
knows her heart, her sex and her soul. Owning this facet of your human potential IS in itself a deterrent. If you don't think you have it in you, now would be a
good time to smack that thought out of your head! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Here is what anthropologist Margaret Mead has observed about our ladylike kind:</span><br />
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<em><span style="color: purple; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"When women disengage from their traditional role they become more
ruthless and savage than men. Men will fight to show off their prowess and
impress females, but when women fight, it is fierce and to the death...They
display no built-in chivalry."</span></em><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, 'Times New Roman', serif;">While this may not always be the case, consider Mead's quote an affirmative
goal. At its biological core, the imperative for us smaller females to be
"ruthless" in defense of our lives and our loved ones may also be tied into the
<em>maternal instinct</em> housed in our primitive brain along with our survival instinct. <b>At its peak, the maternal and killer instincts come together,
giving us girls a double dose of whammy. </b></span><br />
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<br /></div>savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-30345279945649410112012-04-28T14:00:00.003-04:002012-04-28T14:07:28.815-04:00Death By Ball Squeezing!<span style="font-size: large;">"Seize & Squeeze" Takes on New Deadly Meaning </span><br />
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Balls. Always been a good target in self defense if you can get a hold of 'em.<br />
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I've known of testicles being ruptured, battered, and bruised - not to mention ungodly searing pain from getting snapped in the nuts: I'm talking <i>fall straight to the ground, vomit, pull your knees up, while your whole system temporarily crashes or shuts down - </i>the result of good cracks, whacks, smashes, knees and assorted evil "hand jobs." <br />
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That said, it's important to understand that SOME MEN pumped on adrenaline and "the fight" CAN withstand direct hits and strikes to the groin <i>without </i>it stopping or seizing them<b> in the moment</b>-- the effects (see above) arriving after the fact. YES, some guys ARE that pumped and just plain gnarly. <br />
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But this is the first time I've heard of DEATH resulting from ball squeezing.<br />
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Check out the article for possible medical explanation.<br />
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<span style="color: purple;">And let's not count on it ladies. But in the meantime, and by all means, IF YOUR LIFE OR INTEGRITY IS IN JEOPARDY</span> -<b> </b><i><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: purple;">S</span><span style="color: purple;">eize and squeeze! </span></span></b></i><br />
<i><span style="color: purple; font-size: large;"><br /></span></i>savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-50151687955133482802012-04-16T17:11:00.003-04:002012-04-16T17:15:04.676-04:00MORE MINDFULNESS PLEASE!!!<div style="text-align: center;">
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">Let's be clear: YES to sensible risk reduction, heightened awareness, early recognition of dange</span><span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; display: inline; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: #333333;">r/ testing/ behavioral clues, good body language, intuition turned on (ALL CHECKED). Now THIS: NO woman CHOOSES to be a victim or to be attacked. Even women who "do everything right" - how they comport themselves, how street smart they are; they can be Black Belts <i>and</i> kick ass power feminists-- and STILL be violated or raped. And "not at fault." </span><br /><br /><span style="color: purple;"><b>(2) Ditch last century verbiage: Some in Women's Self Defense still promulgate that self defense is <i>about knowing "YOU'RE Worth FIGHTING FOR." That you're worth it.</i></b></span></span><br />
<span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: inline; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #333333; display: inline; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">As one who is steeped in SD and as a former psychotherapist, while I appreciate where this is coming from, I find this comment mildly insulting; the insinuation is that most women DON'T think they're worth fighting for. I disagree. To me this smacks of a victim mentality pinned onto and often attributed to women. </span><br />
<span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; display: inline; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><br /><span style="color: #333333;">Sure. It may in fact be relevant for women struggling with DEEP self esteem issues or domestic abuse whereby they've internalized the doubts of their abusers and diminishing self perceptions. But most women today KNOW they're worth fighting for and WANT to protect their bodily sovereignty. They need to learn HOW and how to overcome fear and other inhibitions. </span><br /><br /><span style="color: purple;"><b>Let's MOVE the conversation forward- not backward!</b></span></span>
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<span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; display: inline; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: purple;"><b>PS. Oh yes that's me with fabulous INVESTIGATIVE DISCOVERY TV producer CHRIS G. </b>I was recently interviewed for a forthcoming (this summer) episode for a new show featuring <i>Dates From Hell</i> . (But seriously. These are <i>remarkable </i>real life stories of women's resolve, smarts, fighting hearts and... fighting back powers. </span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: inherit; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;">Thinking about the 18 year-old young woman he raped, sent a sharp then sinking pain into my heart. I know all too well - from working with survivors - the trauma that rape and sexual violence leaves in its wake. How these moments can unravel into months and even years of suffering. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">So I decided to share a fairly simple and wickedly surprising means of striking back in an oral rape, which is common in sexual violence- and more precisely how to NAIL this motherfucker.(It's a question I've been asked often.) First let me say there isn't just one way-- self defense is never a cookie-cutter or one size fits all. No one technique will always work. In this case where the rapist is wielding a hammer threatening to beat women who don't "get him off" there's a few options in terms of fight-back-to-escape strategies. It's never (rarely) easy, but victory is never cheap. (And no I'm not talking about biting his dick; dicey at best.) </span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">With training you can learn how to wrap and trap his weapon-wielding arm then <i><b>instantly</b></i> move in to attack his face/ his throat/ his eyes bringing your best in-fighting tools to bear: elbows / palms/ hammerfists or stabbing, smashing, or punching hand strikes. </span></span></span><span style="background-color: white; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;">Or you could capture his arm and drive rapid knee strikes into his nether regions or <i>whomping</i> kicks </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: inherit; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;">aimed at disabling his mobility (lower limb destruction).THEN you could slam him down, throw him away and escape seizing the hammer on your way out. Ta-dah! </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">For added panache, imagine flashing him your best Thelma & Louise look of disgust, then casting your eyes his way one last time (so you can give details to the cops) fixing your gaze on his now shriveling manhood while muttering aloud: </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: inherit; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;">The story of the 51 year old Portland Oregon woman who was attacked by a man wielding a claw hammer comes to mind. She not only wrested the weapon away from him in a life and death struggle, she then killed him with her bare hands, strangled him to death on her kitchen floor. Good thing 'cause he wasn't just a home invader but a HIT MAN who'd been hired by her estranged hubby, sent to KILL HER. (Talk about reversals!) </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">But for now we'll bypass assorted strikes - which, by the way, can have different effects on different bodies depending on myriad variables; from the individual's state of mind and blood alcohol level, to how buff or tough he is-- and we'll stick to a mechanically easier solution with concussive head-banging impact for Mr. Jack Hammer- assuming it all goes as planned. (Note: He's only 150 pounds of punk.) </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;"><span style="line-height: 14px;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Before we get going you must PROMISE me that you would ONLY do this if and when you have the MORAL AUTHORITY to do so and are under attack. It 's not a technique to employ on your ex or current (boyfriend/ hubby) cause you can't stand him no more. OK? </span></span></span></div>
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about - then slowly PROCEED to your knees</b>,</span><span style="background-color: white;"> assume the position he expects and encourage him to
step re</span></span></span></span><span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;"><span style="color: purple;"><span style="background-color: white;">al close so you can<i> give it real good</i>. But first, try to negotiate placement: try to persuade him to stand where there is open space behind him and maybe some hard head-banging
surface- you'll see why in a minute.</span> <br /><br /><span style="background-color: white; font-size: large; font-weight: bold;">(2) </span><b style="background-color: white;">Next,<span style="font-size: large;"> </span></b><span style="background-color: white;"><b>h</b></span><span style="background-color: white;"><b>elp him undress</b>. That's right: help him undo his stinking pants so that he
suspects NADA and so that he gets used to seeing your hands near and on his body-- you'll see why in a minute. (*Cough* If you start to feel a little bit o' puke in the back of your throat, that's OK. You'll get to spit soon. ) Encourage him to lower his pants down to his mid-thigh at least so that his legs are effectively trapped in his pants like a sac. If he resists, tell him in your best lying voice, "Baby I need
lots of room to work my special mojo on you."</span><span style="background-color: white;"> </span><b style="background-color: white;">Once he hears that he'll likely oblige. In effect you are NOW leading his head- as in his mind, his big head, so to speak. </b></span></span></span></div>
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from the <i>back</i> of his ankles, YANKING hard and FAST. I said YANK as in one forceful </span><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: purple; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;"><b>TAKING</b></span><span style="color: purple; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;"> m</span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: purple; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;">ove. Do
not just PULL. I repeat: do NOT pull - that will NOT do. This move is your ticket to freedom.</span></span></div>
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hard and fast will </span><b style="background-color: white;">TAKE HIS BALANCE and he WILL SLAM Back & DOWN onto the hard merciless ground, hopefully banging his (big) ugly head. </b><span style="background-color: white;"> But to add OOMPH and make it a REALLY HARD LANDING also do this: AS you grab-to-yank his ankles</span><span style="background-color: white;"> <b>simultaneously RAM your HEAD into his hip
region (</b>or drive your shoulder tackle-style into his knees)<b> </b>f</span><span style="background-color: white;">urther forcing his loss of balance and SLAM DOWN. </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">In the mean time (did I say, </span><b style="background-color: white; color: purple;">MEAN</b><span style="background-color: white; color: purple;"> time? Hmmm...) here's a piece I wrote for Huff Post. Consider its forthcoming 'welcome to my new blog" description as the juicy land of what shall be here.</span><i style="background-color: white; color: purple;"> </i></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; color: purple;">Here is the Huffington Post blog in full:" </span></div>
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--Susan B. Anthony, 1871<br />
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Amen sister. My head is nodding feverishly. Ms. Anthony's words stir holy fire in my heart. If I was an Evangelist preaching to women, my sermon might begin: Behold the power and saving graces of your fierce lower selves. <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">In other words, ladies, herein lies the power to save our own pretty asses!</em></div>
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Before I gush about morphing arms and legs into spears and battering rams, and how to stick it to a rapist, and where I get off being so fresh, let me ask: What if instead of being fearful, you learned how to be fearsome? What if instead of feeling endangered, you knew that you <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">too</em> could be a dangerous creature? And what if your newfound strength could help rescue the world?</div>
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It can.</div>
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Let me introduce myself -- and my spanking new blog. My beloved trade name is Dr. Ruthless. A 26-year veteran trainer of practical, no-nonsense self defense, I have earned a reputation for teaching women how to call upon their primal nature and tap into their killer instinct, when all else fails, to effectively fight back. When I say fight, I mean, well ... like a junkyard bitch.</div>
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I'm also a woman who knows what it's like to be scared to death. In 1985, I had a terrifying home alone encounter with a knife-wielding would-be rapist, which I foiled with war cries that sent him fleeing. This experience propelled me further down the martial arts path, into the down and dirty methods that would <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">become </em>me. At the core of my teaching lies this knowledge -- consider it tip number one: When escape is not an immediate option and the only way out is through, you cannot just defend -- you must<em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> counterattack</em>.</div>
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And oops, did I mention I'm five feet tall on a good hair day?</div>
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Nearly 140 years after Ms. Anthony's declaration -- <a href="http://www.saynotoviolence.org/issue/facts-and-figures" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: #6aa3b1; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink" wrc_done="true">as violence against women continues to plague our world</a> -- her words retain a pressing urgency. For sure, we've advanced. Today's women can negotiate multimillion dollar deals, become fighter pilots and lead basketball teams to win WNBA championships. But put a woman in a face-to-face encounter with a determined sexual assailant (or worse) and she may be clueless about what to do. "How is it," <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Real-Knockouts-Physical-Feminism-Self-Defense/dp/0814755771/ref=sr_1_3?s=gateway&ie=UTF8&qid=1284920080&sr=8-3" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: #6aa3b1; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink" wrc_done="true">in the words of feminist author Martha McCoughey</a> , "that so many women still don't know how to hit?"</div>
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I am sure that some part of you does, yet for millions of women this instinct and capacity (our primal warrior spirit) lies dormant, buried beneath fear and myths of incompetence, bound by the artificial constructs of femininity, by conditioning of one kind or another and by internalized restraint.</div>
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Put another way, this power got lost or drained somewhere between the cave and the condo.</div>
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It's a dangerous disconnect. Strategies aside, my greatest spiritual task then is to help women reconnect to this fierce female force and to liberate fire from fear.</div>
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And let's face it -- the fear of violence or sexual attack is every woman's fear, often coming to the fore when a woman senses danger or feels that chill. We're all familiar with gruesome reports that make headline news: <a href="http://cityroom.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/03/11/nurse-beaten-in-midtown-bar/" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: #6aa3b1; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink" wrc_done="true">the NYC woman who was beaten to a pulp </a> in a bathroom stall for rebuffing a man's request to dance; stories preceded by these heart-sinking words -- <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">she was last seen at</em> -- not to mention reports of domestic violence, sexual abuses and atrocities heaped upon women and girls all over the world, beamed to us from afar -- and not so far.</div>
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Not all women's brushes with fear or danger are dramatic. But they leave tracks in the female psyche -- <a href="http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Female-Fear/Margaret-T-Gordon/e/9780252061691" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: #6aa3b1; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink" wrc_done="true">which take a toll. </a> <span class="wrc_icon wrc01" rating="{"icon":"grey0-16.png","rating":0,"weight":1,"flags":{}}" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; height: 16px !important; line-height: 16px !important; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 15px !important; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; width: 16px !important;"></span></div>
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The gig is up! It's time for a radical shift, a bold new vision of strength and capacity for 21st century women. <strong style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">I propose that instead of shunning aggression, <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">you</em> must view it as a resource and learn to wield its tools. </strong>No more outsourcing your protection to husbands, boyfriends, fathers, men in khaki or blue uniforms -- nor viewing it as something for the fierce few. It's time to bring this bad girl home!</div>
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<strong style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">As a culture, let's ditch last century's lunatic New Age notion that we women folk are all compassionate, do-no-harmers; that flow and force are not mutually compatible.</strong><em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">(I'm a worker for peace; you want me to slam what?) </em>To safely navigate our world and continue making strides, we peace-loving gals need to be packing <strong style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">primal power</strong> and heart, armed with know how to physically explode into a "meat target" and the will to bring it in a heartbeat.</div>
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I <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">don't</em> suggest that learning self defense <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">is</em> the solution to violence against women -- of course not; such ignorance makes my lip curl -- or that it's always effective or the best option. But what I am saying is this: when we <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">dis</em>courage women from learning violent self protection, we inadvertently<em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">en</em>courage them to submit to victimization and to suffer its traumatic aftermath.</div>
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Finally, let me share -- lest anyone think I'm a God-forbid, radical -- that as a lapsed Buddhist and former psychotherapist, I believe in the curative power of empathy and compassion. I feel deeply connected to all living things. But talk and empathy aren't always saving graces. In my view, the prayerful and primitive, our higher and baser selves are not opposites, but complementary energies.</div>
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I know this Beast Girl part of myself intimately -- as I believe all women should. It is ancient, as old as the womb itself, born in the primordial fires of love, fury and survival instinct. With more to come, let me just say, this isn't just my story or truth. It's <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">your</em> story, too.</div>
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Looking forward, I shall liken this blog to an online <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Savage Beauty </em>Parlor -- a place where women can be coiffed in the Art of War, get a free survival makeover and celebrate the smashing power of their hips! I'll also be treating you to success stories of <a href="http://www.wpri.com/dpp/news/local_news/elderly-woman-fights-off-attacker-with-rock-in-fall-river-" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: #6aa3b1; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink" wrc_done="true">everyday women who are doing it for themselves,</a> kicking ass and taking names, and to female warriors and deadly dames from all over the world who embody and ennoble this red hot fusion of fierce and female. <a href="http://current.com/sex-and-love/88939424_gulabi-gang-the-pink-women-of-india.htm" style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; color: #6aa3b1; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; outline-color: initial; outline-style: none; outline-width: initial; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;" target="_hplink" wrc_done="true">(Check out India's Pink Vigilantes.) </a> </div>
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Be warned: I'm not one to sugarcoat the harsh realities of being attacked or what it takes to fend off larger, stronger creatures, so please understand that fighting back is a grubby, gritty, affair. It's inherently dangerous. It takes raw courage and a warrior's mindset. It means harnessing ungodly terror, tapping the utility of ire; dishing out punishing blows and sucking up pain.</div>
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Like I said, self defense is <em style="border-bottom-style: none; border-color: initial; border-image: initial; border-left-style: none; border-right-style: none; border-top-style: none; border-width: initial; list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">for females.</em><br />
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This brings us to lesson number one. It is the Mother of all Truths, the greatest nugget of wisdom I could impart. So mainline this, receive it in full. Burn it into your consciousness. Ready?</div>
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To learn more about becoming a self-defending dame, please watch for my further blogs. I'll be dishing out goods: from practical tips and tools to working the inner life to how to grow a warrior's heart. Welcome to my world! It's your world too!</div>
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b><i>Don't sugarcoat it!</i></b></span><span style="color: purple; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b><i> </i>That's my motto when it comes to </b></span><b style="color: purple;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">dishing</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">about fight-back self defense. </span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've been thinking about this a lot. Perhaps because I've taken some flak from folks about my choice of words like "killer instinct" -</span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Can't you just call it survival instinct?</i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> -- and my language around clobbering skills and other colorful phrases like WHY we need to learn how to "BUST SHIT UP." </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The reason I choose not to make it more palatable, or to speak of this more kindly once we've entered the realm of</span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> Fight For Your Life</i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">---is because it IS fucking harsh. And because language </span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">is </i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">powerful. I want phrases describing what IT takes and what TO do if you must explode into a target / close on an enemy / ATTACK the head / bash and pound ... s</span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">ink </i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">into your consciousness. To become "second language" not just second nature. Because one day this unvarnished talk, it's dirty imperatives could save your life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I encourage women to adopt the language of combat for this purpose. Because it </span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">keeps it real </i><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">and removes the taboo. Attributing nice, lady-like language to the learning of something that is intrinsically DOWN and DIRTY--that spirals us into the basement of our BEING--is not only supercilious but downright dangerous. There is nothing polite about being attacked or counterattacking. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So I don't worry about offending: <i>W</i></span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">hat would be more offensive than BEING ATTACKED? </i><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It isn't<i> </i>just the doing and owning of female force that is liberating, but the language of combat itself is freeing. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Yet many women remain overly concerned with <i>not hurting</i> or offending others and habitually frame their expressions and communications in "nice" ways, fearful of how they may be perceived. In the context of self defense (and female vulnerability) this manifests as -"<i>I didn't want to hurt his feelings or appear like a bitch so I said OK..." - </i>when perhaps that same woman might have been better off being impolite/ DIS-agreeable/ DIS- obedient or forcefully conveying "NO. FUCKING. WAY." </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">They are famous words:<i> I didn't want to be impolite so I </i>(fill in the blank). Tragically they are sometimes famous LAST WORDS. </span><br />
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<span style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b style="font-style: italic;">Self defense means giving YOURSELF permission to do what might otherwise BE unthinkable. </b>This also means giving yourself permission to say it straight, to speak your mind. And when it comes to fighting back, to proclaim language that might otherwise be repugnant.<i> </i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-align: left;">Or Dirty. </span><br />
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-align: left;">Which spirals me back to the point of my blog: </span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-align: left;"><b><span style="color: purple;">Ladies, it's time to get F'ed! </span></b></i><br />
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<span style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">F. As in Fierce. As in Fight. As in Fearsome. And sometimes, in the most dire of straits, you<i> </i>just <i>might</i> need to-- how shall I say?-- <i>"Fuck Someone Up." </i> </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Of course some of us have been advocating this for years. I'm BIG on encouraging women to weaponize <i>and</i> to learn to use their environment in self defense - whether that means wielding handy desk or kitchen objects as self defense tools or learning to use surfaces such as counter tops (for example in this B & W photo above). In this picture, I'm shoving off of the ladies room counter top (note the full force in my leg) to slam backward, slamming HIM into the metal stall behind us. I have padding- HIM! This could be the opening move to release the "strangle." </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But here's the deal: unless you bring full ferocity or wield a hand held item with REAL SAVAGE intent to harm in order to escape, it's useless. And it may just piss off a would-be attacker. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Take a look at this video clip for example. With maybe one exception (the use of her index finger knuckle; the PHOENIX technique) her delivery is lame and ineffective. She lacks intent (not to mention POWER; note how her hips lag behind) and real commitment to drive the "weapon" of choice HOME so to speak. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Now, we're talkin'--and looking good. </span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you need to go physical and wield an object as weapon do yourself a favor. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic';">Her teachings encompass the physical and spiritual dimensions of self-defense. She unabashedly advocates for women to leverage their Killer Instinct —not for the sake of destruction, but to preserve and protect life. In this interview, Dr. Ruthless shares her perspective on the female warrior spirit and why we must learn to mobilize our survival instinct and<i> forge fear into fire</i>.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: small;">DR: </span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">My paradigm evolved from decades of immersion in the study of self-defense and </span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">the warrior mindset. Warrior paradigms are traditionally male. This mindset is dispassionate, detached and steely. It doesn’t fully connect to women. So my<span style="color: #222222;"> approach defines a female warrior paradigm. It's far more primordial. It addresses female realities (spiritual, physical, emotional) and helps women capitalize on their greatest strengths. It is rooted in my concept of Fierce Love and the radical ability to turn fear into fire. It's a fusion of primal self defense - which plugs into elemental powers and capacities- and the resolute heart of the female warrior. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">We need to honor ourselves with a larger view of spirituality that includes this fearsome potential. My paradigm closes the divide between our 'higher' and 'baser' (animal) selves and imparts a unifying, more wholesome and lustier self-persona. I view this as part of the Fighting Eros of Life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #222222;">I want women to have the option to fight. Tight quarters calls for explosive, instinctive, uncomplicated<i> in</i>-fighting skills </span><span style="color: #222222;">that rip from our lower center of gravity and base of power, from our hips, legs and core. I teach women smart timing strategies, how to harness the formidable charge of fear and adrenaline</span>, refashion their bodies into decisive penetrating weapons (plus how to wield handy weapons) and counterattack to escape. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic';"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">In the context of self-defense, these diminishing beliefs become obstacles, the "inner </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">muggers" that can put a choke hold on female force or create potentially lethal hesitation. Conflicts need to be reconciled in advance, for example, </span><i style="font-size: 12pt;">“I'm a worker for peace. You want me to slam what?”</i><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> This is imperative because all systems must be GO.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic';"><span style="font-size: 12pt;">But there are other hindering forces. Some “New Age” ideologies propagate the </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">insidious notion that women are the all-nurturing, all-benevolent, pacifistic creatures </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">devoid of aggression. This lopsided view is dangerous. It furthers the disconnection from our primal selves. Any teaching that fails to honor and validate women's aggressive potential, alongside the strengths of empathy and nurturing, does women a grave disservice.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic';"><b><span style="font-size: 12pt;">We need to expand the definition of love. Love is fierce. Instead of shunning </span></b><b><span style="font-size: 12pt;">aggression, we must view it as a resource. </span></b><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Spirituality should not just be based on the </span><span style="font-size: 12pt;">higher self. Talk and empathy are not always saving graces. When we </span><i style="font-size: 12pt;">dis</i><span style="font-size: 12pt;">courage women from learning aggressive self-protection, we inadvertently </span><i style="font-size: 12pt;">en</i><span style="font-size: 12pt;">courage them to submit to victimization and suffer its traumatic aftermath. We have to make space to include this vital aggression as part of our womanly nature.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: 12pt;">Women are called to help the world, but as we challenge the old systems there will be </span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: 12pt;">violence and opposition. We need to lionize ourselves and be prepared. We need to mobilize </span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: 12pt;">our courage to burn down apocryphal myths and attitudes that perpetuate rape and </span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: 12pt;">violent entitlements. Fighting back is not the only or always the best solution, but it </span><i style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: 12pt;">is </i><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman Baltic'; font-size: 12pt;">a significant piece in the war to combat violence against women.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-size: small;">Ferocity is a gift that keeps on giving. Nestled inside ferocity lies another primal powerhouse: KILLER INSTINCT. It's an <i>ugly t</i>erm I know. I'm in this 26 years now and it took me many years to come to terms with this word-- because it grates against my being-- and not couch it in the more </span></span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: small;">palatable </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: small;">language </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: small;">of "Survival Instinct" which it's connected to. But Killer Instinct is a particular </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: small;">emanation and expression of survival. It's what allows us to engage and to wield the tools of violence (another ugly word) and direct it purposefully in the service of survival. In the service of protecting and preserving life - defending </span><i style="background-color: white;">that which we hold sacred.</i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There is in every woman this deep-seated domain of ferocity- <span style="color: purple;"><b><i>something of the cave, the primitive exists in us all-</i></b>-</span> but it's often buried below layers of fear and socialization. It needs to be called out of hiding and lured to the fore so that it can be freely tapped, judiciously focused. So that it can embolden our hearts. Once realized and switched ON, it's a potential game changer. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">To unveil find your<span style="background-color: white;"> <span style="color: purple;"><b>YOUR F-SPOT</b> </span>(so to speak) </span>you must first answer these intimate questions: <i>What is worth fighting for? What is non-negotiable? What do YOU hold sacred?</i> The answers to these questions will define your boundaries. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And here's the best part: When women arrive at these answers and<i> feel it</i> deep in their hearts, female FEROCITY naturally<i> </i>arises. It's a power that's as</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> spiritual as primal. I</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">t's part of our whole-woman package--the fighting Eros of Life.</span><br />
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This is an awesome story full of real world Teaching - let alone victory. It speaks directly to the power of raw courage mixed with intent, martial spirit and primal instincts-- which often leads the body into action. It came to me, literally, while working on my group email, struggling on how to best capture my call for a NEW Female Dharma and Divinity that joins our higher and lower selves, closing the gap, the dangerous divide that cleaves Beauty From Beast...<em>Voila! </em></div>
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This 18 year old girl fought back-- then pumped one attacker full of lead- against men who were beating her family, in part because she din't want to marry one of them. "I pounced on one of the militants while my brother hit him with an axe..." In terms of<strong><span style="color: #330033;"> tactics and timing</span></strong> she did everything right: She grabbed him BY THE HAIR and banged his head against the wall. When he fell down she hit him with an axe, then snatched his rifle. "I had never touched a rifle before this, let alone fired one - but I had seen heroes firing in films.. "</div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">This one of my all time favorite passages and quotes. Although it's about India (yes, I'm smitten) and the need for self defense-- and more specifically about the legacy of the Divine Warrior Goddess Kali; a lusty creator <em>and</em> destructress with multiple avenging limbs --it's really about<em> All Of Us.</em> It speaks to the urgency and power of WHY women across the globe need to re-inflame their innate capacity for self protection. Make that aggressive self protection.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">Women empowered to defend themselves are their own best hope while the </span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">subcontinent smolders under centuries of repressed cultural warfare. The hope </span><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">for this region rests on the effectiveness with which they can participate in civil society. The first step towards that is to make their uncivil husbands and fathers a little more careful of employing tactics of thuggery against them. </span><strong style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"><span style="color: #330033;">Martial wisdom must be reseeded in their consciousness, their world-view.</span></strong><span style="font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;"> They must become stronger, more vocal, less ashamed of their gender, less fearful of the world. Then, and only then, will more generations of little boys grow to be men accustomed to women conducting themselves as equals..</span> </blockquote>
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Times, 'Times New Roman', serif;">There is a Kali in every Indian woman, just sleeping, drugged by centuries of patriarchal propaganda. It's time for her to wake up, put her foot down, and draw her weapons from their scabbards."</span></blockquote>
</div>savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-91119861638303276502009-08-31T10:47:00.008-04:002012-04-28T20:15:15.379-04:00Deadly Dames: Mother India Style<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZHnv5J3qMjQJJeM_RSjeHHl7jmYlIRFob1ETPYUcgGjtUg9qR2XMr5R_lTb0OchMy0DvudHB8-y9-LKvcL3qTGovGHWfufdEq9qtuGFcW0Pv7mdaE2le63Ea0aw5smbQQjULuTCbGFVtE/s1600-h/pink+vigilantes.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5376145001625022482" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZHnv5J3qMjQJJeM_RSjeHHl7jmYlIRFob1ETPYUcgGjtUg9qR2XMr5R_lTb0OchMy0DvudHB8-y9-LKvcL3qTGovGHWfufdEq9qtuGFcW0Pv7mdaE2le63Ea0aw5smbQQjULuTCbGFVtE/s320/pink+vigilantes.jpg" style="cursor: hand; float: right; height: 214px; margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px;" /></a> These "PINK VIGLIANTES" from India mete out justice against Bad Guys the old fashioned way--with sticks, Lathis to be precise. <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-509318/The-pink-vigilantes-The-Indian-women-fighting-womens-rights.html#ixzz0PbP0EDQN">Check it out here! </a><br />
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In their makeshift uniforms (saris not sorry's), they "arm themselves with lathi - traditional sticks - which they have used to beat men who have abandoned or abused their wives and policemen who have refused to register claims of rape. "<br />
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This group or Gulabi Gang as it's called, has also attracted the support of an increasing number of men. (No, I have no clue what they wear.)<br />
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In cases of domestic violence, "we go and talk to the man and explain why<br />it is wrong. If he refuses to listen, we get the woman out of the house, then beat him. If necessary, we do it in public to embarrass him." </blockquote>
I know I shouldn't be grinning... but I am. <br />
I support the efforts of these fierce fightin' femmes. And it further proves this point-- that we females are not all-pacific creatures and do-no-harmers, devoid of an aggressive nature, or that we go all sickeypoo around the (judicious) use of force. Nonsense! <br />
Leave it to Mother India and her brand of Divinity to bring it home. Her wisdom is as good as it gets, so burn this in: <em>Girl, you are already many. You are not one note on a flute.</em> <br />
Put another way, in my badland lingo, as quoted from my article in BUST Magazine:<br /><br /><em>"We are givers and gluttons, supporters and competitors, creators and<br />destroyers.. We too crave the F**K and the Fuck You." </em><br />
Amen to our PINK sisters.savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-87686566193133074142009-08-10T16:33:00.002-04:002009-08-11T08:53:39.164-04:00Make the Right Move<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5dt8Ktir1JrzWi8j_aS1kio6NQMBfebHYM_8oN-RHN3AU5cTi_c60XTrbCRtHby-qX4eJYDuluVFreUxFd_h9pm82U6mKVdOhrEPa5tzcif3y_fKKVN6NxosZGionT1V5I37uq4A9PoZn/s1600-h/bangalorebeauty.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5dt8Ktir1JrzWi8j_aS1kio6NQMBfebHYM_8oN-RHN3AU5cTi_c60XTrbCRtHby-qX4eJYDuluVFreUxFd_h9pm82U6mKVdOhrEPa5tzcif3y_fKKVN6NxosZGionT1V5I37uq4A9PoZn/s320/bangalorebeauty.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5368440957330870754" /></a><br />This past May and June I taught self defense in India. Amidst a flurry of Press was this fabulous article in THE HINDU -- India's National (English) Newspaper. A big shout out to BHUMIKA for nailing the PRIMAL essence of my messages, means and unvarnished language. <a href="http://www.hinduonnet.com/mp/2009/06/03/stories/2009060350420100.htm">Check it out here! </a><br /><br /><em>Fighting spirit! Melissa Soalt believes that if attacked, women should become savage beauties </em><br /><br />When “Dr. Ruthless” answers the phone, it’s a sweet voice with an even softer disposition that I encounter across the line. I’ve read about her, and the website of this women’s self-defence expert is dominated by phrases like “fierce and female”, “beast girl”, “go ballistic”, “use dirty tactics”, “take control”. I’ve seen fighting pictures of her and does she look formidable! And then when I meet her, I’m stumped by the contrasting package that Mellisa Soalt is. She’s about five feet tall, has a petite yet sinewy frame, and is quite comfortable kicking ass and wearing jewellery.<br /><br />While I tell her that it is reassuring to see that such a tiny woman has become emblematic of physical power, she gives me one of her favourite lines: “It is not the size of the woman in the fight, it is the size of the fight in the woman!” Melissa’s approach to self defence is really about breaking stereotypes. That women are small, defenceless, don’t have it in them to put up a fight…<br /><br />“It goes against the grain for most people, especially women, to resort to violence. I am a non-violent person and believe in the least harm. But if you are attacked, you have to become savage," she tells me at some point in the interview. “I take the cringe response out of you. Everyone has the killer instinct in them. <strong>I believe that half the population in the world should not live in fear of the other half.”</strong><a href="http://www.hinduonnet.com/mp/2009/06/03/stories/2009060350420100.htm"></a><a href="http://http://www.hinduonnet.com/mp/2009/06/03/stories/2009060350420100.htm"></a><a href="http://www.hinduonnet.com/mp/2009/06/03/stories/2009060350420100.htm"></a>savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-8655307341363708782009-08-04T10:59:00.000-04:002009-08-10T17:26:14.728-04:00Practical Primal Self-Defense for Every Woman!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDjcWORxkBBBIAtnKZkOYegqeQIcQusnIbx6AKauTXS8DXTWi0mnHO5QeBHSMSxwK8aFsiq_AHOYaChyphenhyphenqeJNmXkI6GjC_K4oXwsYF_uWjrvymsFSpz-fSjXdTi8_qAogC3_qmVdXqMb5u0/s1600-h/6_0%5B1%5D.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 231px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5366206374894078802" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDjcWORxkBBBIAtnKZkOYegqeQIcQusnIbx6AKauTXS8DXTWi0mnHO5QeBHSMSxwK8aFsiq_AHOYaChyphenhyphenqeJNmXkI6GjC_K4oXwsYF_uWjrvymsFSpz-fSjXdTi8_qAogC3_qmVdXqMb5u0/s320/6_0%5B1%5D.jpg" /></a> At five feet tall on a good hair day, I can attest: All women posses the powerful instinct and capacity for self-protection. It's time you learned how to save your own pretty skin!<br /><br />Sure. You're smart. Self reliant. Yet something's amiss. Maybe you know it as a quiet voice in your head or as your body's alarming sensations, but the "what if?" fear of violence or attack is <em>every</em> woman's fear. (And it isn't always unfounded.)<br /><br /><p>Here's the deal: It's time for a radical shift. A revolution in thinking: What if instead of being fearful, you learned how to be fearsome? What if YOU could be a dangerous creature?</p><p>Dr. Ruthless can show you how.</p><p>From everyday self-protection to <span style="color:#330000;">explosive</span> close-quarters fighting to summoning might in the face of fear, Dr Ruthless teaches the essential skills and readiness of heart that could save your skin... <em>and your soul! </em><br /><br />It's time to rekindle your ancient powers - and slip into something a little more primitive!savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4025409177098833240.post-80688100373430400802009-08-03T15:56:00.001-04:002009-08-08T21:08:23.482-04:00Dr. Ruthless: Mother Youtube<p>Here's a video:</p><p><object height="344" width="425"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/W0piEyfcVAk&hl=en&fs=1&rel=0"><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/W0piEyfcVAk&hl=en&fs=1&rel=0" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object></p><p> My most essential Dr. Ruthless messages, methods and unabashed calling for all females to repossess their survival instincts, engage the "spirit of reversal" and learn how to fight back -- not like a kitten, like a junkyard bitch. Fierce. Directed. Focused. Intent. YOU <em>ARE </em>THE WEAPON!savagebeautyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03122573506022771991noreply@blogger.com0